If there’s one lie that more people believe than just about any other, it’s the Hollywood myth of what a relationship looks like. After all, just about every romantic film that any of us have watched plays out the same way. People meet, they fall in love, and they live happily ever after. The problem is, we never get to see the happily ever after part. And the truth is that it’s because that part of a relationship isn’t nearly so glamorous. In fact, it can often be incredibly difficult and a whole lot of hard work. And there are even times when things don’t feel like they’re going right at all. The problem is that far too often people don’t’ actually know how to deal with this. With that in mind, here are some things that you can do if you feel as though your relationship is drifting apart.
If there’s one thing that causes more problems in most relationships than just about anything else, it’s a lack of communication. If people aren’t willing to communicate with each other, they’re just going to keep colliding instead of connecting. If your partner has done something that bothers you, just talk to them about it calmly and try to have a real conversation about it instead of letting it fester until you reach the point where you end up having a huge shouting match with each other over it.
Take some time apart
Sometimes the best thing that you and your partner can do for each other is to leave each other alone for a while. There’s this idea that once you find the right person you should want to spend time with them and only them forever. This is, quite simply, unhealthy and is a terrible basis for any relationship. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with needing a little time away from your partner so you can spend time with friends or even just have some time to yourself for a while.
Seek outside help
If you really feel like you and your partner aren’t connecting and you’re not able to solve any of the problems that you’re having, one of the very best things that you can do is to seek outside help. Someone like Susie Tuckwell is specifically qualified to help you work through problems that you’re having in your relationship. A lot of couples feel strange about something like counselling but it really can help you to reconnect with each other in a lasting way.
The truth is that some relationships just aren’t meant to last. Sure, it’s always a good idea to try your best with to make any relationship work and not to just run out the door the moment that things get tough. But if you’ve tried everything but you’re still unhappy, sometimes the best thing for both of you really is just to walk away. Of course, if your partner is treated you so badly that it’s actively making your life worse, then it’s time to kick them to the curb without a moment’s hesitation.