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Meet My Imaginary Friend

When I was younger I didn’t have an imaginary friend. I have always been a creative person so you would think that someone with such a big imagination would have one, but I didn’t.

I only came up with my imaginary friend when I was 15. Being bullied at school, had no friends, and every lunch I would sit in a classroom alone. Not the greatest life. I would draw or write or listen to podcasts, but the main thing I liked to do was imagine my imaginary friend speaking to me.

Meet Frederick.

Frederick was named after my pet cat that died at the beginning of my secondary school experience. I decided that it would be a boy, only because I imagined him to be nerdy with glasses and a loud laugh. It comforted me to think that I had someone with me, even though I didn’t. I always thought I was weird to have an imaginary friend at 15, but now that I look back on it I think it’s kind of sweet. It’s sad, in a way, that I needed him. However I am glad I used my creative streak in so many ways to help me through tough times.

Frederick is quite a mysterious fellow. All I really came up with about him is that he’s a massive geek (he loves Marvel, like me) and he is bisexual. The idea of his appearance slowly grew over the time that I needed him, but originally he was just a stick man.

Frederick spoke to me in my head about various things. Marvel movies I had seen recently, art, school, events in my life. He mainly just sat next to me, comforting me during those lonely days in the classroom.

Where’s Frederick now?

Frederick has unfortunately moved on. He ended up disappearing from my mind after college. It was a slow process but now I just can’t seem to muster up the emotional imagination to have a proper conversation with him (myself). I have been in the same, if not more, emotional pain since school. Although I think now I have found more ways of coping with it, besides Frederick. I have my boyfriend, my relationships with my family members have improved, and I’m just older and better at dealing with things now.

I like to think that Frederick is helping some other little girl now. He maybe changes his name and gender for the next person, but regardless, he’s still Frederick.

Saying that, I do still personify a lot of things in replacement of Frederick. I name my plants, my stuffed toys, even my knick knacks and stationary. I’m a very sentimental person and adding that extra level of personality to things makes it even more special to me. This helps me in the same way that Frederick did, it makes me feel less alone if I feel lonely.

Why Imagination Is Important.

Children nowadays are taught imagination in most preschools and households. Imagination opens up an entire new world, sometimes even many worlds, for children to learn and grow in. Let’s face it, our world isn’t that great at the moment. Allowing children (and teenagers, and adults!) to be in their own world, one they’ve created? Why doesn’t that sound like an amazing idea?

I fully recommend the book ‘Imaginary World of’ By Keri Smith. She does such amazing books that force you to use your upmost imagination to fill in, and they actually take time to create and complete. I loved this one in particular because I could use characters and places that were in my head and put them into a world together.

Using my imagination and creativity has saved me from many bad, rough times in my life. I will continue to use it throughout my adulthood as much as I can, and I hope that you will too.

Chaz x

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